Something heavy on my mind....
I don't know how or where else to voice my concerns about something that has been bugging me the past couple of days.. & since this is my place to write.. here's where it's going...
There's been some ups & downs & obvious reason why most of us have all but left the Tracker for the world of Blogging. For me, a lot of that had to do with my basic dislike of discord ..which seems to happen in regular cycles around there--& really, I have enough things in my life that can be altogether TOO negative as it is,Thanks!
Anywho..that being said I still pop in to the Tracker regularly just to see what's going on & sometimes post a comment here & there or just pm those I feel I might have anything useful to say to .
Mostly I just "lurk" especially as of late as there seems to be a whole new "ruling" group & frankly I am really not into the games that are going on there. It seems that things are getting really out of hand - call me a prude but -the sexually loaded stuff is getting just a little over the top! I'm all for teasing jokes & "hey you're lookin HOT" comments... but some of what's going on is embarassing!
& I feel bad for those new people just joining or starting that are really looking for support & feedback... It's almost like having a child that is acting like an idiot in front of guests! Weird I know- but that's how it's been making me feel..
& Now for the other bit.. I'm worried about a couple of people there & their real motivation for joining the group. Now I understand some are there to get attention or stir stuff up .. but my insticts are being tweaked by one individual in particular & his repeated suggestions about naked pics & such..
Then out of the blue I got a PM from same individual making the intial comment of "hey you're looking great! which is always nice ( even when I still have my old pics up- 'cause I'm not putting any new ones up till I get back to that shape & better~lol) ...but then he goes on to say he'd love to see more pics.. I wrote back telling him I would post some when I was happy with how I was looking again..kept it light & laughing ..then He writes back again- & says that maybe I don't want to share pics with every one.. maybe we could exchange them"privately".."what do you think of that?"
Well that just struck a really weird chord with me --the whole thing just felt "sleezy" & then I wonder just who else this person is canvasing pictures from... & better yet what for!
Now maybe I'm just getting paranoid in my old age..~lol... but this whole issue is really bugging me & I don't know what to do about it. Partly I worry about others who may be-- I dunno.."lured" into something that could get plastered Gods know where!! -- I know everyone is adult on Tracker.. but I just can't stand the thought of anyone being taken advantage of..EVER!
& moreover it really is abusing what the site is supposed to be about!
ok that's off my chest... but I still don't know what else to do.... *sigh*
Sunday, December 11, 2005
Posted by Pamela at 3:37 PM
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I got somewhat caught up on that stuff toady and it just left me shaking my head in disgust! It is definetly crossing some lines! Sheesh people move that kind of stuff to a different kind of website. Seriously, I thought about getting on the chat but I didn't because I was afraid they were all in there getting it on, and I didn't want to pop in on something....lol
And then more negativity, I cant' stand it.
Just tell whatshisface to take a hike, I don't think he'll keep bugging you. And if he does I'll go to Iowa and beat him down (of course he might like that too much!lol )
Glad to know it's not just me that 's getting uncomfortable with all that's going on 'round there!!
Yes Suzanne it is one & the same..
As to my own response - No worries- I have no issue about looking after myself from creeps! -I did write him back when this all transpired & told him exactly as either of you would.. NO THANKS!
But it's more than that..
I guess the overprotective mother hen in me thinks I should be portecting any other females from this type of Predator!!
I have half a mind to ask to Webmaster to somehow monitor this/these guy-- 'cause it's obviously wrecking things for the "normal" people! & that is just WRONG!!
I totally agree. I've just been popping in and out, too, b/c I'm not doing BFL right now, and haven't been in to the "ruling group" lately either.
And I am certainly NO PRUDE either. But there is a time and place. I think adult (XXX) matchup sites have their place in the world, and I don't protest their existance. But Tracker is not such a place, and I think some people go way too far. Also, they seem really into themselves, or just something about the manner in which they write really bugs me. I love sex, but don't necessarily want to see anyone having it in front of my face, or talking about having it, or whatever. I appreciate porn, but that's not what I'm talking about here.
And yeah...I'm totally scared to go into chat now. Egad! I bet it's a big sex fest. Again, not a prude, but I'm not into online sex if it's not with my husband. Hell, maybe that does make me a prude, I don't know.
But the fact that he asked you for private pictures is WAY out of line, I think. I guess you can ignore certain threads. But a PM is different. I'm glad you know how to handle yourself. As you said, we're all adults, so I think most people can deal with it. I hope.
I wonder if his wife knows he's asking women for naughty pics. Worse yet, I wonder if she's in on it? I feel dirty. :)
I totally agree Karla.. the "tone" that this group writes with is...well it just 'feels' wrong!
And I couldn't agree more that there is plenty of other places that are WAY more suited to this sort of SEX talk & PLAY...
this is just NOT what the Tracker is for!!
As to the wife... maybe I should PM her! ;)
Nah... I'm too damn nice for that- phooey~!
if she doens't know.. I'd feel bad .. & if she does.. it's not my issue.. I just don't want others upset or hurt by this Garbage!
I'd report him to the webmaster now... if he did it to you and didn't get the desired response I bet he kept trying...
I hate it when I post a really good thread on tracker and it doesn't get a response because another "saucy" thread has gotten all the attention! Grrrrr. . .and I hate it it when I respond very nicely to someone's thread and they don't even acknowledge me! It doesn't take a second to say thanks or give karma or something to show you give a stuff. I used to really resent the "ruling" group and I felt it was rubbing the old salt in the wound to read them lamenting about the good old days! LOL I'm so grumpy. Can one of you PM about who this person is on tracker? I think I know because he seems to have his own built demented little demon following him thread to thread who sounds a bit too much like a spurned lover to be a random tracker member! I don't know about the webmaster either. . .I think he lets an awful lot go unsaid. But I suppose he can't do everything. Maybe we could do with a moderator (gasp). I think the naked pic stuff is way over the top and, as some people have expressed, tracker will become one of "those" sites. I do think there is a BFL singles club on the net.
Anyway gab gab gab. . .
I gotta get on.
Ya the whole thing is getting TOTALLY rediculous! I know what you mean about the women involved! I'm embarassed for my gender - ya know!!
The thing is that these seem to be some people that sit on their puter all day with nothing better to do than write this crap!!
Where the heck is the Webmaster?????
I haven't seen him on there in ages... he really needs to shut this down... 'cause anyone else trying to say anything is as you say... gonna get hate responses form this gang!!
UNLESS we all went in guns blazin! Get all us Gals that wandered of to Blogland to take over the show!!
hmmmmmm now that might be an idea! ;)
Oh. . .LOL "agent 69" has blocked me! sneer sneer
That's awful! I was blaming the new "women" on the site (two in particular) for all the ruckus as of late. Hmmm.
I blocked three folks today, but didn't click the "leave my name anonymous" part because I didn't think the Webmaster even had such a function. Hmmm, I guess they'll know.
I'm glad you and Suzanne brought this to everyone's attention here in the world of blog. I went on there and read most of what you guys are talking about and think it is so stupid. It get so boring reading that stuff. I really could care less about it. The bad part is that it is turning Tracker into a joke. Not sure if Tracker will ever make it back to how it was in it's glory days (around last spring). Great post.
Thanks for rescuing one of my tracker posts--it really made my day!
Christie is apparently leading another coup on Jan 2!! I'm hoping that it will be successful enough to right the tracker and get us all back on track. I'm tired of the stupidity and lack of substance in a lot of the posts I'm reading especially the ones concerning the sex and BFL girls gone wild. Like Suzanne, I'm no prude, I'm just not impressed with their maturity and frankly think their posts offer nothing in the way of BFL support. Will you join our Army? Please please please pretty please? :)
Pamela
I'm with you, I've a basic dislike of discord. One of the reasons I drifted away from tracker. And seriously this 'coup' to 'take back tracker' just sounds like more discord to me. Tracker isn't the first board I've left because of this - nore will it probably be the last. I'm happy on my blog - where I'm the queen of my own domain - selfish I suppose but hey I'm happy.
This person contacted me for pics as well. Quite honestly I don't even remember how it got started. But all my nosey self was interested in was when he told me some tracker members had sent nekkid pics my immediate reaction was who? who? who? Didn't really care but wanted to know anyway just for giggles. Anyway, started receiving 2 or 3 pms a day offering the valuable info on their identities in exchange for something of value. Told him I was not going to be sending nude pics to a guy over the internet for him to jerk off since he apparently had such a huge collection as is and wouldn't be giving him cash either in exchange. Anyway, ended with a simple F.O.
I am no way near a prude either but this naked picture stuff is just stupid - I wish I could come up with a better word. I can't imagine why someone would send them in the first place. Just trying to have some fun, yeah I get it but this is just.......just......stutter......stupid!!!
My feeling, this is the end of this fiasco.
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